Sis’ to Sis’

I just randomly wrote a poem. He he. I think it needs more work, but I might share it some day when I feel the need to. There is something else I feel I must share. It’s just been on my mind lately. The other day, I met a woman who was sitting by the pier. She decided to talk to me and asked me why I was there. She remarked that we both had our journals out and were writing. She asked me what brought me to the pier. She said that we don’t talk to each other enough (As black women or women in general). She was a stranger in the beginning, but during our talk, she became a mentor, a teacher and a fellow sister in my journey of self-discovery.

At times, I question the decisions and the direction I have made in own life. I am happy to have my MSW and to be closer to becoming a licensed social worker. I am glad to have pursued my creative endeavors by still writing at times and starting out with making jewelry. (Which I need to post more on here) I have joy in partaking in fun filled activities either by myself or with others to make my life that much more enriching. However, there are moments when I go down that dark hallway of my mind and question the choices that I have made.

I am starting to realize that the way things are manifesting in my life is exactly what I always wanted; I must push myself more and have confidence in my decisions. I must learn not to let the naysayers, even those close to you, tear down the strength behind my choices.  God or the Universe will take care of me; always.

The higher power above will take care of you too. You will take care of you. The path and the choices that we make define our lives. We must believe in ourselves more and stop comparing or allowing the negativity of others to take us down. You know why you did what you did; don’t regret it. Even if it’s not working out in your favor yet, it will. Or it will be an important lesson for you in your journey to success if it does not work out. This is the road to who we are. The mistakes, the wrong turns or the right ones lead us to who we have always been.

In this journey that we take, it is also incredibly important to take time to self-reflect and discover who we are. There is something that I am starting to notice more, but I also see that it is quite disturbing in society. We put so much emphasis in getting these successful careers so that we can make a lot of money. The goal has always been to get a high paying job, get the house, get the car and you will be successful; you will be happy. However, I cannot help but notice some famous, rich people who appear to be quite happy in accomplishing all of this on the surface, but in truth are hiding behind their success. Big time celebrities make excessive amounts of money, travel the world and have the adoration of millions of fans, but are still unhappy. Many of them strive so much to be successful for objects but may not be successful with self. So many of them still have the same internal issues or worse than the rest of us. For some of them, it may be heightened because of all the energy they collect from users, naysayers, or any other negative forces they take in from those around.

My point is, why is it that we do not strive to know ourselves? Why is it embedded in us to sacrifice ourselves for these material things instead of saving time for ourselves as well? I mean it’s not wrong to want things and to work hard for them. But why is it OK to put in almost all your energy into gaining objects instead of gaining experiences or positivity from others? We could be uplifted from each other. We could be uplifted by our journeys in self-discovery. The concept of self-care is a huge theme in the caring profession since so much of our energy is utilized by giving to others. But the same can be done from other careers. It is so essential for us to know who we are and to take the time to do so. We tend to lose who we are and become mindless robots for the green. The biggest treasure out there is becoming who you are as a person and sharing that with others. When we empathize and work together as a society, we evolve.

Going back to the conversation with my fellow sister, she said she was relearning herself now that her children are out of the nest. She had her kids young and was rediscovering what she wanted to do with her life after having a rewarding career as a social worker. This queen was taking the time to get to know herself and through her words, she helped me. She had me realize how important it is to take the time to know who you are and to talk to one another. So much can happen with just a smile or a few words. We are so powerful in our own unique ways. We all know who we are at birth, but we must find the tools along the way back to ourselves; choice words she quoted from the outstanding soulstress Erykah Badu. Stay true to yourself and work on you, it is the most important goal you can have. Without it, nothing else matters.

Below, enjoy some sounds from the spiritual, neo-soul queen below.

Next Life Time by Erykah Badu

When we’re lucky enough, love finds us. Once it grabs us for a wild ride, we want to hold on as tight as we can. But the roller coaster of love takes some for a real dip when someone else comes into the picture. Your heart is split when there’s two trying to own it. The lovely Badu takes on this journey in her classic track “Next Lifetime.” She sticks to the first man who has her heart, but offers the other another chance in a different world, a different time. The gentle sway of the light beat plays along with her pleasing rasp of a voice. It tells the story of the chemistry that erupts from her other even though the flames of her current haven’t been put out. Many have claimed to be gripped by this confusing situation. Listening to it in her eloquent form can ease the memories just a bit.

Q.U.E.E.N by Janelle Monae featuring Erykah Badu

This is something that has to be done more. Two extremely unique individuals blending their talents to bring music hydration for us all to hear. Welcome the Queen in her funky new joint by the same name. The chic fashion sense and electrifying energy thumping through the beat throws the senses into overdrive. Don’t be afraid to let your body feel the uncontrollable urge to move. Feel the power of “Q.U.E.E.N.”

Erykah Badu – Gone Baby, Don’t be Long on Vimeo

Badu brings us back to her world with her new video “Gone Baby, Don’t be Long.” Indeed, this is my favorite track off her latest album New Amerykah Part 2: Return of the Ankh. The easy, laid back flow of this casual tune keeps my head bobbing as I strut down the streets of fly hood in this flashback of 70s sound. Her surreal trek of the simple drawings of what looks like a space station brings us on a funktastic journey of relaxing grooves. Let it float on in your mind as it is sure to be a trip. Enjoy!

“Didn’t Ya Know” by Erykah Badu

Life is a journey none of us can fully understand. There’s a multitude of knowledge many will try so hard to learn, but will never reach the end of their lives knowing. We can build our minds with intellect as much as we can. But one thing that we can knowingly understand is the work we put on ourselves. As the individual progresses, grows, and blossoms, the old skin of ignorance is shed away and a new beginning is formed.

Erykah Badu‘s classic “Didn’t Ya Know” emphasizes the inevitable journey of growth. Her normally raspy voice lifts into a harmonious sound angelically matching the peaceful rhythm of the song. The gentle tune floats like a serene stream providing an eloquent sense of movement and calm. Badu digresses her angst in understanding where to go from here in love and in life . The video creates a visual masterpiece of an arduous path with her billowing garments of travel as she trudges through the desert. After days and nights of endless walking, she encounters her new from as her old skin is shed giving light to her natural form. The task of encountering mistakes and the unknown will always be a feat we all must face. Yet in the end, the best of our potential is a fought for gift we can accomplish through new understanding from old ways.